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Wed, 27 Jun 2018 11:30:06 -0400

lizphairs: And I know no one will save meI’m just asking for a...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 22:19:58 -0400

And I know no one will save me
I’m just asking for a kiss
Give me one good movie kiss
And I’ll be alright

Mitski - Nobody (2018)

osufjan:& i don’t want your pity, i just want somebody near...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 22:19:09 -0400

osufjan:

& i don’t want your pity, i just want somebody near me
nobody // mitski ft. mitski

queen of surrealism

sheabutterbitch: evil-faery: sheabutterbitch: A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 22:08:56 -0400

sheabutterbitch:

evil-faery:

sheabutterbitch:

A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of marriage and my professor said “With compromise, you both lose. As a couple, you must collaborate on the best possible outcome.” Ever since, I never prioritize compromise in a relationship, only collaboration.

this seems like a great concept and all but. what does it actually mean?

Compromise is typically thought of as a 50/50 split amongst partner’s needs. They’re both left partially unsatisfied, but this dissatisfaction is deemed acceptable because it is ‘equal.’ However, with additional effort, many problems may be solved through collaboration; keywords: additional effort.

In collaborating, one may try to make the conflict more complex in order to expand the possible positive outcomes. This requires trust in both parties, empathy, and consideration for one another’s needs.

The objective should shift from getting what you want and ‘keeping things quiet’ to making sure your partner feels heard and considered (as they should do with you). Essentially, you must trust that your partner has your happiness in mind, and you must have theirs, instead of fighting for your own best interest.

For further explanation, Google “compromise vs collaboration.”

lesbiandaydream: not to be nsfw but i want to have a nap with someone i love

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 21:58:52 -0400

lesbiandaydream:

not to be nsfw but i want to have a nap with someone i love

itsworldofgeeks: deohsogay: In a room full of lesbians Hayley...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 21:54:04 -0400

itsworldofgeeks:

deohsogay:

In a room full of lesbians Hayley looks at the one straight girl that is such a lesbian thing to do

carry-on-my-wayward-butt: jake-trickster: carry-on-my-wayward-butt: carry-on-my-wayward-butt: car...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 21:17:02 -0400

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

jake-trickster:

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

bad mood on main, lads.

a real spell of melancholy on main.

absolutely low spirits on main

Check out this dog on main

…snif

thamk u on main…..

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Tue, 26 Jun 2018 20:03:21 -0400

lil kp was wonderful live i wish she played more songs and i...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 19:42:27 -0400

lil kp was wonderful live i wish she played more songs and i cant wait for her album to come out 💕💕

booksandfirelight: Happy Sunday! I hope you’re having a relaxing...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 18:30:08 -0400

booksandfirelight:

Happy Sunday! I hope you’re having a relaxing day. What’s your favorite thing to read on a cozy day in? I like classics or escaping into a good fantasy.

50-km:o0bb_b

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 15:00:16 -0400

50-km:

o0bb_b

storyop1: https://instagram.com/p/BjM6n_bhjoj/

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 11:30:07 -0400

storyop1:

https://instagram.com/p/BjM6n_bhjoj/

flohuwer: got away from home through the window and took...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 18:30:16 -0400

flohuwer:

got away from home through the window and took blankets to the beach to watch the sun rise on new years day ✨🌊
ig: clarakunning

snoia:u kno when u hav many thing to do so u lay on the floor for long time

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 15:00:22 -0400

snoia:

u kno when u hav many thing to do so u lay on the floor for long time

idreamofhandmades: I really need to finish at least one project....

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 11:30:13 -0400

idreamofhandmades:

I really need to finish at least one project. New hat on the needles.

expliquemoilartcontemporain: Podium, 1999, Wolfgang Tillmans

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 18:30:15 -0400

expliquemoilartcontemporain:

Podium, 1999, Wolfgang Tillmans

heatherwitch:I think the reason I enjoy Ghibli so much is it romanticizes the little things. It...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 15:00:23 -0400

heatherwitch:

I think the reason I enjoy Ghibli so much is it romanticizes the little things. It makes me want to bake, study, clean the house, garden, and more while listening to happy music and occasionally picking wildflowers and lying in the grass. It helps me find joy in day-to-day life and that’s honestly sooo important for my mental health.

mautlyn: tagtra: mautlyn: whoa yeah I’ve never really thought of it this way but mainstream...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 11:30:11 -0400

mautlyn:

tagtra:

mautlyn:

whoa yeah I’ve never really thought of it this way but mainstream (liberal) feminism really is about “learning to enjoy patriarchy”

How is that?

this might be difficult to explain from scratch so to speak but liberal feminism is essentially based on the idea that femininity is devalued and generally under attack. this is opposed to 2nd wave feminism (which is what most of my feminism is routed in) which states that women are under attack and femininity is an oppressive construct intended to keep women subordinate.

the idea that it’s femininity which is under attack implies that femininity is inherent to women, and that women are oppressed for our femininity. again, this is opposed to the idea that women are oppressed with femininity.

this ends up leading to ideas like ‘masculine privilege’–butch women oppress & have power over feminine women, and butch women reject femininity due to internalized misogyny (since they’re supposedly rejecting their nature). I’ve actually been accused of the above by a liberal feminist.

2nd wave feminism would state that “masculine privilege” doesn’t exist, because masculine women are still oppressed for being women under patriarchy and are punished in various ways for rejecting femininity (the tool meant to oppress them). only male privilege exists, and masculinity is only rewarded in males.

the foundation that mainstream/pop/liberal feminism has built itself on is why there’s a huge emphasis on ‘weaponized femininity’ (think ‘eyeliner so sharp it could kill a man’), enthusiastically embracing femininity, far more sex-positivity than sex-critical discussion (leading to ideas like “criticizing porn is anti-feminist”, “criticizing bdsm is anti-feminist”, etc.), a general distrust of butch or gender non-conforming women (“trust no butch”), “feminist” articles about what type of lipsticks stay on best while giving blow-jobs (I’ve actually seen this), body-positivity that centers around ‘all body types can be beautiful’ rather than ‘women do not have to be beautiful and should not focus on it’, etc etc etc. I hope this was an ok summary even though I’ve really oversimplified the whole thing lol.

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Sat, 23 Jun 2018 18:30:06 -0400

geopsych:I loved this little one.

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 15:00:14 -0400

geopsych:

I loved this little one.